Oct 252013

My dog Niko has cancer and is going to die.

Fourteen years of love and companionship will be gone soon and I am overwhelmed with sadness.

Niko has helped me through many difficult times in my life.  The death of my grandmother, my divorce, and heartbreak.   Through it all he has been my rock and my friend, giving me unconditional love in a way that only a dog can.

He has been there for me through happy times.  We have walked through my neighborhood enough that he knows when we are nearing home and gets excited if we have been gone all day.

Every time I am out with Niko he always draws attention.  People always ask “Is he a dingo?” or they tell me “He looks like the Mad Max dog!”.   Children love to pet him and he always allows this even though it is not his style.

He has protected my home and child time and time again, even chasing a bad guy down the alley.   His entire life he has been nothing but an unconditional friend and he will soon be gone.

I am absolutely heartbroken.

This is what cancer looks like.

This is what cancer looks like.

 Posted by at 10:02 pm
Oct 232013

Today my son is seven years old.

Seven. Years.  Gone in what feels like seconds.

I can still remember his smell as a baby.  It is one of those things only a parent can relate to.  His touch, the subtle sounds he made and the warmth of his skin when he slept.   All of those things come flooding back when I stop to think about it.

That moment in time that I thought would last forever is.. gone.  The memories will always remain.

Today my son is in first grade.  He is learning to speak Spanish and his teacher tells me he is one of the best in his class.  He is never shy (unlike his father), but will clam up the minute we ask him to speak Spanish.  His confidence will come with age.

The boy is growing tall and his legs are long.  He is in constant motion, even while sleeping.

His mind is curious and ever expanding with a thirst for knowledge that I envy.  He is excited to learn and full of questions, sometimes so many, you feel like you are drowning in them.

He is stubborn, like his father.  We fight about things that make no sense to me.

This year we built our own small garden together.  Tomatoes and strawberries were the primary plants with lots of flowers thrown in to the mix.  The tomatoes were never ending and we created sauce and salsa with them.   Cultivated by the hands of this child who enjoyed watering them as much as I enjoyed watching him do it.

We share of love of the outdoors. This summer we spent time at the ocean, baseball games, camping, swimming, walking and hiking together.

We love to play Minecraft and Terraria on the Xbox.  It makes us work as a team and pushes us to be creative together.  Some people don’t understand it and that is fine with me.  We laugh and bond.

I can still carry Alex.  He weighs almost 50 pounds awake but feels double that when he sleeps.  I’m not sure science will ever figure out why that happens.

My son still loves to cuddle and hug and kiss me.  He is not afraid to show his affection in front of his friends, or anyone for that matter.

I am terrified that he is growing up, but excited at the same time.  I cannot wait to watch him grow and am curious about what he will become.

He has saved my life more than I can ever explain.  He has taught me unconditional love and how to be a better man, and father, than I thought possible.

I take all of these moments in.  Every single one.  Snapshot them in my mind.  Making and keeping new memories.

Love you kiddo, you are everything I have ever wanted in a son and more.

 Posted by at 4:00 am
Oct 092013

“There is nothing in the world more shameful than establishing one’s self on lies and fables.”

-Johann Wolfgang von Goethe

 Posted by at 9:14 am
Jul 212013

Half way through the four day weekend and I am having so much fun.  I forgot what it was like to be happy.

Had a dinner date last night with an old friend.  A ton of catching up, laughing and general fun.

Went to the Wilson Rams 1988 Class pub crawl along Pacific Ave. and met up with people I have not seen in 20+ years!  So many friendly faces and good people to be with.

Left the pub crawl and ended up at a country bar to celebrate a 21st birthday for the daughter of a friend.  What a rowdy but fun crowd of people.  We closed it down..

I am recovering a little bit today but busy packing for the upcoming camping trip.  I continue to be reminded that you cannot be happy with others unless you are happy within first.  I’ve turned a corner and no looking back… and am being rewarded.  I don’t need to visit the past to make me happy.

 Posted by at 12:41 pm
Jul 182013

I have been stress free for a week and it feels great.

Starting a new job soon, making new friends and enjoying every day.  The weekend will be busy with friends, new and old.  I am looking forward to it!

Camping trip is in motion and we are gearing up.  Alex is excited and we plan to make the best of it.  This entire summer is turning into one giant fun experience and I am excited for the future.

No looking back.  No anger.  No baggage.

 Posted by at 6:18 pm